"Venomous Friends"

Have you ever watched Mean Girls? The movie starring Lindsay Lohan and Rachel McAdams? In real life, the world of female relationships are not a far cry from the movie's storyline. It can be complicated, bitchy, poisonous and life-ruining depending on who you surround yourself with. If you're unlucky enough to be calling bitchy, competitive, manipulative divas as your 'friends', then good luck!! They might ruin your social life, love life, any life that you have, if they decide one day that they don't like you anymore or if they feel that you're a threat to overshadowing them.

I hate girls like that. Fake girls who blow you kisses that goes 'muah muah' and pretend to be interested in you, try to korek whatever info they can outta you then turn every bit of it into nice scandalous gossips. Everything good can be turned into something bad for them to talk about. They love filling their time maliciously spreading gossip and rumours about other people. Whether the story's true or not, they don't care. Heck, they might even create a few subplots just to add spice to it. They live to bitch. But only about other people [even about their bestest, closest friends ~ behind their backs, of coz!]. They will hold back any damaging, negative news about themselves. Nothing bad about them will ever surface. They will only talk about positive, good things about themselves. Paint themselves as goddesses, saints, angels, etc [*gag*].

And they don't necessarily have to be thin and beautiful. These breed of evil comes in many forms. Fat, short, thin, tall, plain, pretty, etc.

Those who are pretty will be really bitchy, especially to those they see as a threat. To them, they should be the most beautiful, the most attractive, the most perfect, therefore will garner the most attention. They cannot stand being second best. Because to them, they are the best. Those who, in their eyes, could topple their 'first', 'best' position will be eliminated from the scene.

And there are those who are not pretty, slim nor tall. These, you really hafta be careful of. They will strike when you least expect it. Don't underestimate them. They are influential because most of the girls who fall under this category are rich. And with money comes power. People run all over the place for them, bow down to them and give in to their every whim because they are wealthy. Being friends with this girl will mean you can be at the most happening places in town with the most happening crowd, to be seen and be heard. All coz she's got enough $$ to lead that kinda lifestyle and she can pay for yours too.

I've experienced both of the above. Not fun. I've had enough being surrounded by scheming, venomous individuals who would do anything to rid themselves of competition/ threats/ people they dislike. Not healthy.

And there's a particular manipulative bitch I knew, who spends most of her time bitching about other people, choosing to see the worst in everyone [and talk about it most of the time] instead of the good. She will bitch about a person, not invite the person for parties, then discovers that the person might be useful to her, start becoming friends with the person then, in the end, twist some stories around to her own benefit, for example, instead of admitting she bitched about this person, she twisted the whole story around and said another friend did the bitching and act all innocent and beliveable and the innocent framed friend will be seen as a nasty bitch and all friends will shun her. This bitch also thinks that the whole world revolves around her and will be super-sensitive that people are talking about her [as if people have time to talk or even think about her]. What she doesn't realise is, at the rate she is going [bitching about people all the time], at some point of her life, her true colors will show and then, she'll get what she deserves. I don't think she can fully grasp the meaning of 'what goes around comes around'.

All these, I call venomous friends. They don't do you any good. They will only bring harm. They will do anything in their power to protect their own interests by ruining other people's lives and not feel guilty about it. I cut off these venomous friends a long time ago.

I don't seek anything in return for sincere friendships. And whatever I give to a friend, I give with sincerity. I never ask for anything in return. It's ok if I don't get anything in return, but if I get backstabbing, betrayal, etc in return, that'll be the end of it. I have no time for pretentious and backstabbing friends. I have much better and worthwhile things to do than to hang out with these so-called 'friends'. I'd rather be sitting at home with a good book than to spend time with a bunch of 'plastics'.

As I grow older, I look for quality friends, not quantity. Quality will last a lifetime. Quantity? Who needs them if they have no quality in them?